Is it right for a man to cheat on you if....

I was having a conversation with a friend about sexuality and the role it plays in a relationship. 

Which one is strong and influential, intimacy or love?

People would usually say love is stronger. What about a relationship where people love each other, care about each other, but there is no sex, sexual attraction and chemistry would that relationships last?  Some would argue that if you love each other, you will do what it takes to please. What if you don't find your partner attractive because they have gained weight?  Or you never had sex before getting married and then you find that his penis is too small or the sex only last two minutes and you have never organism, but you love each other would that relationship still be fulfilling? 

What about a relationship that is founded on sex? Would that last longer than the situation above? What if all you do is hook-up and have sex is that a better situation? I personally think this scenario is better than being in a relationship where there is no intimacy. However, given, that there is sexual chemistry (where you know each other’s body inside and out, you bodies are in sync), have a similar sex drive and you both extremely attracted to one another. This relationship as more chance of developing into a relationship than the other circumstance turning into a fulfilling relationship. 

I think a lot of people underestimate the importance of sex. What lead me to do this post is that I know a lot of people that are in relationships, long term relationships, yet the women doesn't even own any lingerie, or feel the need to own any, and the man always has to initiate the sex. Is it then justified for a man to then cheat on the women if he is hungry for a sexual connection? 

African Civilisation is World civilisation.

My black men and black women know yourself, study yourself and know your worth.

 “To manipulate history is to manipulate consciousness; to manipulate consciousness is manipulate possibilities; and to manipulate possibilities is to manipulate power.”

-Amos Wilson

Know yourself. 

A clear view of history is able to help us create the future. This means having a clear knowledge of the actual historical events. I will be posting daily what Africans have contributed to the world.  It is evident that there is certainly a lack of knowledge about the true historical contributions made by Africans.

To embark on this journey I must first dispel the biggest myth. The myth that the West brought civilisation to the world.  Africa brought civilisation to the west, the west did not have civilisation prior to Africans bring the concept to them.

However, investigation around the world and factual evidence, shows that the West have not been objective enough to teach history without crude falsification.

The Africans brought enormous learning to Spain that over centuries would percolate through the rest of Europe. Generations of Spanish rulers have tried to expunge this era from the historical record.

Black Africans advances in mathematics, astronomy, art, and agriculture. They brought this knowledge and helped propel Europe out of the Dark Ages and into the Renaissance. The sources below are very useful if you want to do research in regards to the contribution of Africa in ending the European’s Dark Ages.

Golden Age Of The Moor, Edited by Ivan Van Sertima
Natures Knows No Color-Line, by J. A. Rogers

White people and the delusion of white superiority....

We live in a white supremacy society, a society that has to protect the minority status of white people. As a result, the information and ideas I am discussing would never be discussed on a large scale and some of this information is not even presented rather something you have to look for.

Throughout history white people have had an obsession for oppressing black people and an obsession for falsification of history as mankind. This treatment remains consistent and prevalent, not only physical but also physiological (recent example of police brutality, presentation of Africa more recently Ebola). In addition, Whites continue to perpetuate not only that they are progenitors of civilization but also the progenitors of humanity.

The fundamental question remains why do they contrast black people as inferior to them?

More specifically the falsification of facts and history remains prevalent, forming ones perception of self. The White race and scholars have committed the biggest cover up of true history, complimenting the delusional sense of their achievements. The deep and pervading sense of inadequacy and inferiority of the white race ensures the continuing misguided-ness and miss-perceptiveness of the prominence of HUE- MANS (Color) physically and the accomplishments. #So let me teach you some of the things your teacher won’t tell you:

Civilisation started in africa

Western (white) civilization is founded on a Black African civilization

The first civilised Europeans were the Greeks, who were chiefly civilized by the Africans of the Nile Valley

White people do not have a culture and civilisation; they have stolen everything from hue-mans and labelled it western civilisation

That Ancient Egypt was a Black African Civilization

Whites have stolen and falsified history; blew off the Africoid nose of the Sphinx!-- and destroyed much ancient Africoid art etc

That the willful and systematic destruction of Africoid art has also occurred in the Americas, Asia and India by whites

So-called Greek philosophy is stolen Egyptian philosophy

That Africans gave us Math, Algebra, Geometry, and Trigonometry!-including the Arabic Numbers

That Africans originated the world's first known universities. The blacks the moors taught white people all that

That the words Chemistry/Alchemy are from the word Kam or Khem, the name which the ancient Egyptians called themselves which means BLACK

The Moors also introduced the first shooting mechanisms or rifles known as firesticks. Which revolutionized EUROPEAN MILITARY science

The Founding Fathers sought to recreate in America the same energies which guided the Africans of the Nile Valley by using African science, architecture and symbols

The brain and body can't function without Black Melanin

All races were born from the Black race

Black rulership was widespread in Europe during the "Dark" and Middle Ages

Civilisation started in africa

Western (white) civilization is founded on a Black African civilization

The first civilised Europeans were the Greeks, who were chiefly civilized by the Africans of the Nile Valley

White people are recessives

White people do not have a culture and civilisation; they have stolen everything from hue-mans and labelled it western civilisation

That Ancient Egypt was a Black African Civilization

Whites have stolen and falsified history; blew off the Africoid nose of the Sphinx!-- and destroyed much ancient Africoid art etc

That the willful and systematic destruction of Africoid art has also occurred in the Americas, Asia and India by whites

So-called Greek philosophy is stolen Egyptian philosophy

That Africans gave us Math, Algebra, Geometry, and Trigonometry!-including the Arabic Numbers

That Africans originated the world's first known universities. The blacks the moors taught white people all that

That the words Chemistry/Alchemy are from the word Kam or Khem, the name which the ancient Egyptians called themselves which means BLACK

The Moors also introduced the first shooting mechanisms or rifles known as firesticks. Which revolutionized EUROPEAN MILITARY science

The Founding Fathers sought to recreate in America the same energies which guided the Africans of the Nile Valley by using African science, architecture and symbols

The brain and body can't function without Black Melanin

All races were born from the Black race

Black rulership was widespread in Europe during the "Dark" and Middle Ages

Whites are a genetic mutant albino population from the original Black (hue-man) beings

The Legendary super-civilization of "Mu" (Lemuria) was Black

Whites people can only give birth to white. With black comes all different races

Europe's royal families descended from Black

Black Melanin is necessary in order for humans to reproduce

Whites are the minority, 1 tenth of the world population, their birth rate is always going down, in spite of their racist attempts to kill and oppress hue-mans

Melanin threatens the ideology of white supremacy

All people of color have Melanin circulating in the blood due to spillage from the melanosomes

The most crucial brain structures are heavily melanised

Whites have the lowest melanin content

Melanie is key to creativity and many other brain activities

Whites are recessive

Whites are a genetic mutant albino population from the original Black (hue-man) beings

The Legendary super-civilization of "Mu" (Lemuria) was Black

Whites people can only give birth to white. With black comes all different races

Europe's royal families descended from Black

Black Melanin is necessary in order for humans to reproduce

Whites are the minority, 1 tenth of the world population, their birth rate is always going down, in spite of their racist attempts to kill and oppress hue-mans

Melanin threatens the ideology of white supremacy

All people of color have Melanin circulating in the blood due to spillage from the melanosomes

The most crucial brain structures are heavily melanised

Whites have the lowest melanin content

Melanie is key to creativity and many other brain activities

*The question is why does this information and among others remain hidden. 

White men will never accept you.

I am sad and feed up of seeing so many black women online showing extreme signs of self-hatred.

I am really feed up of this. Let’s just be real, white people, in reference to white MEN will not accept us. Period. That's why we see studies stating black women are ugly, unattractive, undesirable etc. Let’s not be under an illusion that this is a mistake. This is not a mistaken, there are people out there constructing this. Therefore, us to then up lift white men or non-white men, makes us look pathetic and not worth of respect. We are craving attention from white men, you can only look at the internet and see how many blogs pertaining to black women and white men, and the majority created by black women. There is nothing wrong with attraction, but look at where this “want” is coming from, is it coming from the need to be accepted. The more you try to get close to white people the more you start to hate them, but that's a waste of time and energy. What we need to start to do is to understand this system and why this system exists. You need to reclaim you position in this world black women, you are the first people on earth that give birth to every single race; everyone come from black people. Therefore, we should treat ourselves with the respect that warrants this.


This system has an objective aim. They have created this system for themselves, the question is do you want to spend your life time trying to be accepted by white people, knowing that this is a system created by white people for they own interest.


If it takes my life time preaching about this then it will, until this sinks into people’s minds and heads. There is no way the mother and the first people on earth can be reduced to this level. Your behaviour should reflect who we are.

Black Women: Dating White Men

This blog was motivated by a video that I watched on YouTube. It was about a discussion of a black woman who wanted to date white men, but scared that they would not be able to date her because she speaks 'slang'. They advised her to improve herself in order to date the men that she wanted, essentially a white man. This got me thinking, should this woman change herself to meet white men. For me the whole concept of changing yourself for a man does not sit right. Why should she change herself to meet a man let along a white man. Why shouldn't a man accept her for who she is and secondly why should she treat white men as a 'special' class.

I think this notion that black women should somehow change themselves to appeal to white men comes from this propaganda that we have been witnessing for the last few years. Specifically, 'black women are the least reached out to on online dating', 'black women are ugly' 'black women are the least likely to get married' ect. All this propaganda gives the illusion that black women are somehow inherently defective. They need to change themselves and accept anything they can get. Black women do not stoop this low to meet any man for a matter of fact. I rather be single than lower my standard and self-respect to meet a man. I will be honest right now, yes according to the media we are undesirable, but we need to understand who we are dealing with. Quite frankly, the media is racist, period. We are talking about people that have consistently excluded black women from the public eye; we are talking about people that only present negative images about black women. We live in a white supremacy society hence that is why we have research that reinforces what the media perpetuates. Therefore, when it comes to particular issues like this we need to look at them in a white supremacy context. Things do not just happen in the white supremacy society, every move is calculated. The white supremacy society works to protect its own self-interest. White people have always brutalized and discriminated against black people for their self-gain. Therefore, we need to be realistic; whites will not do anything on their expense. Let’s be honest Black women pose a threat to white women or any other race of women. Black women on their best are the biggest competition, this is the reason we rare see beautiful, confident and intelligent black women in the public eye, yet again this is not by mistake. If we saw these types of women, all races of men would strongly consider black women, no doubt about that. Nevertheless, what we see is negative images of black women in order for other people to form negative images about black women but also for black women to feel bad about themselves.

All that information gives a good analysis of what is currently going on but what we need to focus on is ourselves. This is not the time to feel bad and feel pitiful, but time to get BETTER, because ultimately the most important thing is your happiness. And it starts by not lowering your standard for any man, how can you truly love yourself if you think that you are not good enough for somebody else. We need to go back to really who we are; it is knowing that you deserve anything. We need to understand that this black skin that we have is a blessing, God blessed us with this skin (this was NEVER given to us as a mistake as white people would like us to think). Really get rid of any 'white supremacy conditioning', would suggest start by watching 'hidden colours', reading Francis Cress Welsing's work and Dr. Chancellor Williams. Second thing is we need to get in touch with our sexuality and sensuality. PLEASE do not be ashamed by this, this is a natural part of who we are as women. We as black women have a natural sense of femininity and rhythm. Be comfortable with your femininity and our sense of rhythm, this should be reflected in the way we walk (and other elements also), have you seen a black women with this confidence walking down the street, then you know what I mean.

When you show you sensuality and feel comfortable with your sexuality everyone will look, women will give you negative looks, surprisingly enough, even some black women. The negative response comes from the idea that black women should only be mammies and not show their sensuality in public. We need to understand no woman can pull off sexy than a black woman, hence you will get looks. Therefore, certain people in society will feel uncomfortable. Other people’s insecurities shouldn’t be our concern; it is about you feeling comfortable in your skin. The most important thing I need to emphasise is being uncomfortable in your skin and for us as black women it really starts by weeding out all the brainwashing that has happen. We need to become better, being unapologetically comfortable in our beauty.
 

Do not let people determine how you feel about you

Us as human beings have the ability to love ourselves. We are created by the almighty God, who is love. Most importantly he loves us, he will go to all measures just to show us how much he loves us. Inherently love is within us and therefore, we have the ability to love ourselves the way we are. But want prevents us from manifesting this love for ourselves is people. Do not let people suck energy out of you by; caring about what they think of you, trying to gain acceptance and letting other peoples actions affect you. The most important person is you and love starts from within.

Fulfill your potential.

Is anxiety stopping you from fulfilling your potential?

Anxiety can ruin you life if you let it, especially when it comes to forming romantic relationships. So my advice for today is step out of your comfort zone and say hi to that person you see on the train everyday and have been dying to talk to me. Ask your self this, do you want to live your life anxious and fearful.